It’s one of the reasons why most older teen guys date younger girls, because they know they will have that mindset…and they will be too naïve to recognize the trap that is being set for them. Younger girls usually agree to have sex just so the older guys won’t think they’re a kid. I talk about this danger when I talk to 8 thgrade girls: Dating older guys is a red flag. I didn’t want to lose him because all of my friends were so impressed that we were dating. When he suggested that we have sex, I was afraid if I said NO, he may start dating someone else. Whenever he came over, he’d tell his mom that he was going to a friend’s house to study, but would get his brother to drop him off at my house. I told him my mom didn’t get home until 7 or 7:30, so he suggested that we hang out at my house sometime. He said he didn’t have much privacy at his house and asked what the situation was at my house. He said he wanted to spend time with me outside of school, which made me think that he must really like me because he wanted to spend more time with me. When my friends were shocked that we were dating, it made me feel even more special knowing that they were surprised that a high school guy would date me. I knew that he could have dated a high school girl, but he chose me. I thought it was cool to have a high school boyfriend. I was in the 7 thgrade and my boyfriend was in the 9 thgrade. But, they made me transfer to another school when they found out I was pregnant.Ĭan you set up the scenario that led to you getting pregnant? I live with my mom and I was attending a Christian school when I got pregnant. Tell me a little about your background and family situation. She agreed for me to share portions of it with you in hopes that it will prevent another girl from making the mistake that she made and having to go through what she went through. Two days later we spoke for almost two hours on the phone and it broke my heart to hear all of her story. I knew that I wanted to speak to this young lady on the phone and not just via Instagram direct messaging. If you pray for others, can you pray for me sometimes? You’re one of those people that made things “OK” again.
Thank you! I’m saving this message so it can be a reminder. Which wouldn’t be good for her or her child.Īnd in my experience working with teen girls, hopelessness increases the changes that she’ll make unhealthy choices that could lead to a repeat pregnancy. I thought it was important to encourage this young lady, because I knew if no one else believed in her, it would be difficult for her to believe in herself. Your testimony of how you still made something out of your life may help the next 13-year-old mom have hope.Īnd your story of getting pregnant at 12 may prevent another 12-year-old from thinking it won’t happen to her. You aren’t the first girl to have a baby at 13 and you won’t be the last. You prove to your family that you won’t let this stop you from being successful. God’s opinion is the only one that matters. You better not listen to what others say about you. God loved you just as much after you got pregnant as He did before.
You can’t afford to have a thought in your head about you that God doesn’t have about you.Īnd God thinks you are AMAZING! Totally forgiven. It may take us longer, but we still get there. It reroutes us so we can still get to our destination. When we’re using GPS and we make a wrong turn, what does the GPS do? But you also can’t give the past the power to determine your future. Girl, you prove all of the doubters wrong. What she needed to know was that being a teen mom wasn’t the end of her story. This young lady already knew she messed up. Thank you! I got pregnant at 12 and had my child at 13, and ever since then everyone in my family has been telling me how I literally messed up everything.īe careful how you respond to your daughter’s mistakes…
“Hi, could you do a video on how to recover if you’ve already messed up?”Īfter I posted the video on Instagram, she sent me this message: Recently, I asked my IG followers to send me questions that they’d like me to answer via video.
What would you do if your daughter got pregnant at 12 years old?